The Non-Judgment Workout Plan
$10.00
Judgment is the First Compulsion
When we’re cutting out compulsions, we always come up against this fabulously well-developed judgment machinery in our brains. It’s so skilled at sticking labels on the world, so efficient at shoving life in tiny boxes, giving us so much trigger fuel to spiral off with checking and controlling compulsions.
In many ways, judgment is the first compulsion. It’s that initial judgment around an experience which creates the uncomfortable feelings and pressure to fix them.
Learning non-judgment skills helps us stop the spiral of anxiety and compulsions before it starts.
Course Specs
Time
Approximately 1 hour per day for 4 days.
CONTENT
Text lessons
MATERIALS
Just you and that atomic label-maker in your skull.
How does this work?!
Non-judgment can be a strange concept to wrap your head around after decades of practicing judgment. Let’s explore some frequently asked questions:
What is non-judgment?
Non-judgment is a skill for interacting with experiences, the same way that judgment is a skill.
Judgment is about labeling, attaching meaning, and shoving the world into tiny, narrow boxes of impossible certainty. Labeling a thought as “intrusive” is an example of judgment. It’s natural we become anxious if we’ve labeled a thought as an intruder. That judgment begins the cycle that sends us hunting for compulsions to clean away the intruding thought.
Non-judgment is about making space for experiences, inside and outside of us. We can have those experiences and don’t need to attach the unnecessary labels to them. It’s about seeing the world around us as it is instead of seeing it through the muddy lenses of our assumptions and fears.
This is a skill you already practice in many areas of life. There are many experiences you don’t judge and attach meaning to. In this course, we’ll be building on the skills you already have. We’ll simply be applying them in new, useful areas of life.
How is non-judgment connected to mental health & fitness?
Judgment is the first compulsion. We often identify later compulsions as problematic, but it all begins with judging an experience.
When a friend takes too long to respond to a message and then says something you don’t like, so you judge that as meaning they’re going to abandon you, so you then push them away or try to hurt them in before they can hurt you, we might see that distancing as the compulsion. But it began with the judgment.
When we have a strange feeling inside of us each time we walk by a window, and we judge that feeling as meaning somebody is watching us and we need to control that, so we cover the window or avoid going outside, we might see the covering and avoidance as the compulsion. But it began with judging that feeling as meaning we were in danger.
Practicing non-judgment helps us get ahead of the things we do that push us into compulsions, so it can be a fundamental recovery support.
Does this mean I have to pretend that everything is good?
This is a common misunderstanding. It might be that we spend so much energy judging everything as terrible that we’ve come to think of the opposite as judging things as good. But that’s not what non-judgment is about.
Non-judgment is about how you spend your time and energy in life. Terrible things will remain terrible. Do you need to spend time and energy hating on them and making yourself miserable? If there’s a painful experience popping up in your head, do you want to leave the present so you can devote yourself to chasing control of that experience?
Judgment and non-judgment are about how we want to spend our time and energy in life. This is not about things being good or bad. This is about how you want to live.
But what if my judgments are just very automatic and I have no control over them?
I hope they’re very automatic. After years of practicing, it’d be kind of embarrassing if you weren’t a pro at judging things—not that I would judge you for that.
At first, developing non-judgment skills will be like learning a new sport. You were a professional at judging. The best in the world! So your brain judges on reflex. Now you’re going to learn a new sport. It’s like switching from pro volleyball to pro football. You’ll probably try to smack the ball with your hands a few times.
It takes practice to learn new tricks. That’s what this workout plan is for!
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Mehdi Safarpour –
This course helps to remove unnecessary suffering our over judgmental brain impose on us. I had the worry that if I cut the judgements completely, I may not be able to see the danger, the bad things, and hurt myself but this is not about removing judgment. This course teaches you understand the judgements and interact with them. So that the judgments serve you not the that you hold your life to run after judgements.